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Are we dating, or just Friends With Benefits?

8 Nov

If you’ve very recently started dating somebody new and, while you’re cosied up together on a rainy Sunday afternoon flicking through Sky Movies, he suggests watching the Mila Kunis vs. Justin Timberlake rom-com Friends With Benefits, this should not be taken too literally. Should it?

I mean, we have a great time together when we see each other. Which, due to the fact he lives in London and I live 130 miles away, has only been twice in the last month after our initial hook-up. That’s fine, it’s good to not rush it. But I guess what’s bugging me is that he doesn’t get in touch in between dates. He doesn’t text to see what I’m up to at the weekend, or just to say hey. In other words, he doesn’t text just for the sake of it. He is a man with reason, who only texts to arrange the next time to meet up. I, however, am quite a fan of exchanging perfunctory texts with a new beau. It shows you’ve been thinking about them, or vice versa.

Just the other day, for example, I texted a photo of the book I just started reading. In hindsight this may have been a mistake, because the book in question is Jon Ronson’s The Psychopath Test. “I’ll let you know how you score” I wrote, with a winky face ;) to make it clear I was joking and didn’t really think he was a psychopath. “Crikey!” he wrote back. “Could you let me know how you score too? Xx” Two kisses – but no winky face. Shit. He thinks I could be a psychopath and that’s why he only wants us to be Friends With Benefits. Just like Kunis and Timerlake, only with less witty one-liners and more post-graduate debt.

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